Are We All Victims?
Thinking positive is something everyone should do every day. Vishen Lakhiani believes 95% of us are stuck in what he calls the victim stage of life – we actually like thinking negative! Thinking negative thoughts can bring you down and also bring down those around you. Not to mention the fact that negative thinking can bring on negative results in life and even stress you out more than you already are.
Positive thoughts are better for you and they can better your life in these three ways.
1. Helps You Live Longer
Did you know thinking positive can prolong your life? How does this happen? It happens because you aren’t as stressed out when you think positive. Positive thoughts can make you happier in life and bring on happiness because your thoughts can turn into actions.
Yale researchers checked on the mortality rates of more than 600 people who answered survey questions some 20 years earlier, when they were age 50 and older. The researchers discovered that those who’d agreed with such statements as “Things keep getting worse as I get older” and “As you get older, you are less useful” were more likely to die early than those who’d agreed with such statements as “I am as happy now as I was when I was younger.”
People with a more positive outlook on aging lived an average of 7.5 years longer than the negative bunch.
Thinking positive every day can help you live longer because your body’s systems won’t be as stressed out when you are thinking positive.
2. Provide Better Relationships
Everyone wants to be happy and when you think positive happy thoughts, it is contagious and will make people want to be around you more often. The more happy and positive you are, the better your relationships will be.
You will also find that people will be:
- Naturally drawn to you
- More willing to open up to you
- Trust you more
In a study from the University of Chicago, researchers found that when a husband has a high level of positivity, there’s less conflict in his relationship. Likewise, the way partners respond to each other’s good news matters too. In a study published in The Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, researchers found that the way couples react to each other’s good news—either with excitement, pride, or indifference—is crucial in forming a strong bond. The New York Times breaks down the research like so:
In the laboratory as in life, constructive support is generally better for a relationship than detachment, as many people have learned the hard way. Couples who lace their arguments with sarcasm and mean jabs, studies find, are usually headed for a split. But in their analysis of response styles, the researchers found that it was the partners’ reactions to their loved ones’ victories, small and large, that most strongly predicted the strength of the relationships. Four of the couples had broken up after two months, and the women in these pairs rated their partners’ usual response to good news as particularly uninspiring.
Anyone would rather be around a happy person who thinks happy and positive thoughts than someone who is negative all the time.
3. A Healthier Lifestyle
Thinking positive and being happy more often can provide you with a healthier lifestyle. Think of it this way – if you think bad thoughts, you can end up with a lot of stress which can cause you to feel sick and worn down a lot.
This additional stress can also cause your blood pressure to shoot through the roof. This in itself can then cause a lot of physical problems throughout your body.
Researchers continue to explore the effects of positive thinking and optimism on health. Health benefits that positive thinking may provide include:
- Increased life span
- Lower rates of depression
- Lower levels of distress
- Greater resistance to the common cold
- Better psychological and physical well-being
- Reduced risk of death from cardiovascular disease
- Better coping skills during hardships and times of stress
Living a healthier lifestyle means you can do more things in life.
You will be much more willing to:
- Go shopping with friends
- Go dancing
- Talk a nature walk
An old story is told about an Indonesian woman who was inconsolable after the death of her son. She went to a holy man to seek help. The holy man told her she first needs to gather a mustard seed from every home in town before he can help her. Desperate, she went door to door collecting a mustard seed from each. As she did this everyone shared their stories of loss with her, some worse than her plight. When she returned to the holy man her depression was lifted, realizing she was not alone in her torment.
Bad things happen to everyone, it takes a positive outlook to realize it is happening FOR you.
To gain knowledge.
And then pass that knowledge on to others when they seek it.
The sooner you make the change in how you think, the sooner you will start to feel a lot better about yourself, others, and the outlook for the rest of your life.